What do you do when you don’t like someone?
I usually try to be nice to someone I don’t like, if I don’t have a special reason not to like them…sometimes you just meet someone and instantly dislike them for no reason at all! But what do you do when you lost all respect for someone? And when that someone sometimes is with you and your friends? Well..that’s a tricky situation!
I personally just try to have the least amount of contact I can with that person. It doesn’t mean I can’t sit with them or hang out with them in the same group, it just means I don’t really talk to them. I’ll answer if they speak directly to me and for the most part I try to just ignore them…specially if the person likes to budge into conversations or interrupt with subject about their life that have nothing to with the subject at hand.
Last time we where all together I asked one of my best friends if I was mean for just ignoring this person. She answered me “It’s better to ignore her than to be fake!” and that made me think. How many times have we been fake to someone just because we don’t want to hurt them? I personally prefer not to pretend like I like someone! This person in particular was never my friend..we never had anything in common but I indured this person’s presence because it just didn’t really bother me. It was only when I found out things that had been done by this person that I lost all respect I had for her. No one really likes her and sometimes when she interrupts I just want to yell at her “no one cares!!!” but I obviously don’t! I mean..she didn’t even say happy birthday to my best friend when she got to her birthday lunch…how rude is that? The least you can do is congratulate or at least say hi to the birthday girl, right?
I find that the best thing to do in situations like this is just to be yourself. Don’t be fake, don’t pretend you like the person but don’t lie either if they (or someone else asks you). It’s tricky if you have to see them everyday or if they are dating/married to someone close to you like your best friend or brother/sister, but it’s manageable! My best friend was for 3 years with a girl I truly did not like and who was just with him for all the wrong reasons and I never lied to him! We had a bit of problems because of it, but in the end we got over it, we’ve been friends for so many years it wouldn’t be a girl to break us apart.
I really believe being yourself will bring you the right people into your life! It has to me! I used to pretend to be something or someone else and I was utterly unhappy.. I only really started saying what I think and being with who I want about two years ago! And I made wonderful friends! I learned who is important in my life and who was with me for all the wrong reasons…someone who’s only your friend for your good grades or stylish clothes is not a good and true friend!!!
Be yourself, don’t be afraid to show the world who you are, because you’re amazing the way you are! You’re unique and that should be celebrated! And there is nothing wrong in not liking someone!! I learned that the hard way, with a lot of guilty issues in the middle, but in the end I now know it’s ok and it’s normal! I don’t have to be friends with everyone as long as I don’t treat anyone badly and am true to myself. That’s the most important thing!
Sorry for all the rambles..this is just something that was on my mind since yesterday and I really love the friend who told me that it’s better ignoring someone than being fake to them. She’s an amazing person who should give herself a little more value!
I hope this post inspires someone out there to not be afraid to be themselves!